Free mini-quiz

What's your attachment style?

Five questions, about two minutes. Attachment theory describes the patterns you learned for closeness — secure, anxious or avoidant — and they show up everywhere in dating. Answer with what you actually do, not what you'd like to do.

This is self-reflection, not a clinical assessment or a diagnosis.

Question 1 of 5

You've been on two great dates. Then they don't reply for a day. What actually happens in your head?

They're probably just busy. I get on with my day. I re-read the chat, wonder what I did wrong, and fight the urge to double-text. Honestly? A bit of relief. Maybe I wasn't that into it anyway.

Question 2 of 5

Things are getting serious with someone you like. The honest first feeling is…

Good. Closeness feels safe, even when it's new. Excited — and already a little afraid of losing them. A quiet urge for space. It can feel like the walls are coming in.

Question 3 of 5

Something they did is bothering you. What do you usually do?

Bring it up early and calmly, before it grows. I can't settle until it's resolved — I need reassurance, sometimes more than once. Go quiet and deal with it alone. Talking about it feels worse than the thing itself.

Question 4 of 5

When you need something from a partner — time, affection, a change — how does it come out?

Fairly directly. Asking doesn't feel like a risk. Hints, tests, hoping they'll notice — asking outright feels like being "too much". It mostly doesn't. I handle my own needs and keep things light.

Question 5 of 5

Looking honestly at your dating history, the recurring pattern is…

Mostly steady. Relationships end sometimes, but not in flames. Intense starts, on-again-off-again, and a real fear of being left. Interest fades once someone's fully keen. One foot always near the door.

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Five questions give you a signal, not a verdict. Attachment styles are patterns, not personality types — and research shows they can shift with awareness and the right relationship.

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